Self Love: 5 steps to finding true love, mindfully

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So often we fluctuate between the deep, inner knowing that we are enough – a confirmation of our self-love, and the innate, biological yearning to be intimate. 

As women, we sometimes battle with understanding the difference between this inner desire and the conditioning that we receive from society – from Disney movies to family expectations. And so we find ourselves on a never-ending wheel of looking for love – inside and out. 

When we observe ourselves over time we find that whether we’re in a relationship or not, we still feel insecurity creeping up on us and we begin to wonder if those feelings of security that we once felt were real, tangible things, or if they were simply illusions. 

Yogis and spiritual masters can help us to understand where this deep longing comes from, and how to find peace and self love first and foremost, from within. 

1. Be present

Instead of using your energy to wish that a situation were different, how would it feel to focus your attention on simply being? We can do this at any given moment – however peaceful or turbulent. Mindful meditation helps us to find this sense of presence, no matter how chaotic our external environment. And although the turmoil of life can often interfere with our sense of inner peace, setting aside time each day to formally sit in mindful meditation can certainly help us to weather the storms more gracefully – both externally and internally. Even five minutes a day can make a big difference. Simply sit and watch your breath, and see how the awareness you cultivate in this space begins to flow into other areas of your life. 

2. Listen to your body

A great lesson that we learn from yoga and meditation is body awareness. As we tune into our physical sensations we eventually begin to see a correlation between them and our emotional tensions. Western science is continuing to uncover the ways in which we can store our feelings within the physical body. This tension is held within the deep tissues and has the potential to express our subconscious thoughts and feelings. Start to be aware of the sensations in your body, developing curiosity about what they might be communicating. You can use these insights to guide your decisions and act in a way that is more loving towards yourself and others. 

3. Nurture your inner child

To find true love within yourself, you must get to know the little child within. Listen to that child, find out what she needs, and respond in the best way that you can – from your grown up perspective. Perhaps your inner child needs to feel heard or comforted. How could you do that for yourself now? When you notice yourself experiencing strong emotions or being triggered by something seemingly minor, see if you can sit with the feeling and find out what your inner child needs. Your subconscious, little you may be reacting to a trauma from the past, and often this has little to do with the current situation.  

4. Learn the art of letting go

Sometimes we feel compelled to seek love outside of ourselves. In doing so, we demand safety and security from another, inevitably creating insecurity within ourselves. When we rely on another to make us feel good, we lose the ability to take control of our own self worth. We cannot force someone else to validate or love us – that needs to come from within. It sounds cliché, but it’s true. When you truly love someone, you do not require them to love you back, and when you truly love yourself, you can let go of seeking, wanting and pursuing, and be content with all that is. As the Buddha said, “you can only lose what you cling to.”

5. Make self-love your number one priority

From this place of genuine self-love that doesn’t rely on external validation, you put yourself in the best position to love others and be loved. If you truly loved yourself, you wouldn’t need others to make you feel good. Instead, you could enjoy the delight of your own company. Develop the habit of continually asking yourself the question: What would I do if I loved myself?

About the author:

Jessica Humphries is a yoga teacher, writer and editor for Australian Yoga Journal. Find out more at www.jesshumphries.com 

Cellulite Be-Gone!

Cellulite Be-Gone!!

Do you know that unlike the bloodstream (which has the heart to pump it around the body) the lymphatic system can only be stimulated and drained via movement?! 

Why is this good to know? 

Well, a blocked up lymphatic system can show up as cellulite, typically around the hips and thighs for us gals and sometimes on the abdomen and arms. Also lumpy breasts (especially at the time of the month) can be a sign. So, here are a few ways you can target those problem areas;

Jumping on a trampoline! You know those ones you can but from a sports shop? Jogging is also great, too. 

Dry body brushing before you hop in the shower. I am currently LOVING using a few drops of Cypress Essential oil on my body brush, or just rubbing it directly into my skin with some fractionated coconut oil each day. My favourite spot is around my tummy when I jump out of the shower. I can really feel the difference when I do this regularly. 

Massage! This can be self massage, massage from your partner or when the restrictions lift treat yourself to a lymphatic drainage massage. I love using AromaTouch on an evening before I jump into bed.

Easy hey! 

*A great idea is to have your essential oils stored in the areas you use them, so you don’t forget. I have Cypress on the bathroom shelf to remind me every time I shower to get massaging!

Tiff 

Gypsy George Wellness

Hello, I am Kayla Jane the owner of Gypsy George Wellness studio, I am a hairdresser and aroma therapist. I am a mother to a 3 year old boy, I kickbox, surf, play soccer and do a lot of yoga. I have a fun a busy lifestyle, I am always doing something. 

I try to focus in keeping grounded with in myself. 

During the last few months I have noticed the lack of self esteem levels in many of my friends, family but also with in myself. 

This is simply my way of helping boost your confidence levels this month.

Just remember take it gentle on your self.

So start with this 

Challenge bad thoughts about yourself

Replace them with more positive thoughts. You can do this by writing down a list of at least three things you do well.

Remember this list when you start feeling low, this will help bring yourself back to reality.

Take care of yourself

Eating well and exercising boosts endorphins, the body’s natural opiates, which make you feel good on the inside and stimulates a more positive mood.

When you exercise, you’ll ease stress and feel better about yourself. Having a cheesy dance in your bedroom, or going for a jog around the block are great ways to boost your self-esteem.

Self care tip: Try stretching your body every morning and every evening before bed.

 Start with 10 mins per session. 

 I personally do this everyday and use my stretch routine if I’m anxious, this helps me align back to my body and help focus once I’ve completed it. 

I notice I am breathing again when I am stretching and we mostly forget to breathe, which is actually what can trigger our anxiety in the first place.

Try and remember to breathe and focus on each breathe you take when in a new stretch position, if you are familiar with a yoga routine try and do 20 mins a day to keep yourself grounded. 

 Be sure to relax

The constant feeling of stress can play a huge role in low self-esteem. It makes you feel negative thoughts more often, it reduces your confidence and you’ll probably feel too tired to exercise, be social or do a lot of the things you love.

Reducing your stress by taking time out to do something you find relaxing is a great starting point to making yourself feel better.

This can be anything from taking a bath, meditation, gaming, cooking, painting or reading. Anything that makes you feel relaxed, you do it. 

Try and give yourself some free time to be able to do these things. Plan out a day where it’s all about yourself and your time to relax. 

We always need to recharge our batteries and a lot of the time we forget to protect our own loving energy. If you don’t have hours to spend, you can relax and regenerate by having a bath filled with essential oils. 

Lavender: Renowned for its calming and relaxing properties, many people use Lavender oil for emotional health because it promotes soothing feelings of calm and self-awareness, while easing feelings of tension. Some studies suggest that the chemical properties of Lavender may make it useful for reducing sad feelings

BALANCE BLEND: This grounding blend provides whole body relaxation, while promoting feelings of balance. Balance is a go-to oil for those who want to lessen stress, ease anxious feelings, and create a calm environment.
 

Vetiver, essential oil – Vetiver is a member of the grass family, is grown for many reasons. Unlike other grasses, the root system of Vetiver grows down, making it ideal for helping to prevent erosion and providing soil stabilization. Vetiver has a rich, exotic, complex aroma that is used extensively in perfumes. Due to Vetiver’s calming and grounding aroma, it is an ideal oil to use in massage therapy. It can also be rubbed on the feet before bedtime to prepare for a restful night’s sleep.

 Applying essential oils for emotional benefits

When you’re ready to use essential oils for emotional health, there are a few ways to effectively experience the potency and power they have to offer. When you find the oil you want to use, try any of these application methods:

  • Massage onto the base of the skull
  • Rub on the inside of the elbow
  • Use an essential oil diffuser 
  • Apply a drop to the palms and inhale
  • Rub into the wrists and carry the aroma with you all day  

Find what works for you

Remember, essential oils work differently for everyone. Because each oil has such a complex chemical makeup, and because aromas interact with the part of our brain that stores our personal memories and experiences, no two people will experience one essential oil in the same exact way. It is important to remember that an oil that is comforting or uplifting for someone else might not have the same effect on you. 

Discover your favourite oils. Try smelling a few oils with your eyes closed to see which ones you really like. By taking in the aroma of the oil, it is easier to discover what really helps you.  

Incorporate oils into your personal routine. To utilize the calming, uplifting, grounding, energizing, or comforting effects of essential oils for emotional health, try incorporating your favourite oils into your everyday activities. Essential oils can be used during yoga, as part of your skincare routine, diffused in the car, and nearly any other part of your day you can think of. 

Be consistent. Rather than using essential oils sporadically when you want to alter your mood, try using small amounts on a more regular basis. Some people complain that they don’t experience the benefits of essential oils for emotional health, but a one-time application isn’t always a guarantee of a mood change. 

Practice other healthy habits. As mentioned, essential oils are just one resource for promoting good emotional health. By adopting other healthy habits in conjunction with essential oil use, you can help to promote better emotional health overall. Things like quality sleep, a healthy diet, regular exercise, and getting time outside in the sun are an important part of feeling emotionally healthy.

Seek extra help. When your quest for an emotionally-balanced life becomes overwhelming, don’t be afraid to ask for help. Reaching out to friends and family and seeking professional help can provide you with extra help on your journey to good emotional health. 

Abigail Paix

Hi Everyone, my name is Abigail, I am pioneering in the field of Sexuality and Wellness and would love to share my knowledge with you.  Currently, us Sisters want REAL, AUTHENTIC, TRUE, information.  I want to talk to you about conscious connection, not something we are taught in school and not something that is always modelled by culture, family etc.  Using the four energy centres as a journaling exercise or simply a mental exercise to see what is authentically aligned to you.   

Head – Crown Chakra

Heart – Feelings of love, connection, consciously connecting, heart centred connection

Tummy – Intuition

Sacral – Creative energy, sexual energy, reproductive organs, life force energy, connection to the earth, Manifesting energy.   

To give you an example; you are single and have a connection with someone and feel deeply attracted to them sexually.  Going beyond the physical connection allows us to make choices that are right for us.  Checking in with the four centres and some questions to ask yourself.  

Head: What is my head telling me to do? Logically how do I feel about this person? Do I have a mental connection with this person? Do I have an intellectual connection with this person? 

Heart: Do I feel a real heart connection with this person? What is my heart telling me? Do I feel love for this person? Even if it is a casual thing, Do I have a heart connection and care for this person?

Intuition: Some are more in tune with their intuition than others and many factors can cloud our intuition. Tune into that feeling in your tummy.  What is it telling you? What does your intuition say about your feelings for this person? 

Sacral:  Life force energy, where all our creative possibilities are located, and our sacred sexual energy originates from.  Do you feel a strong sexual pull to this person?  Are you just connected to them intellectually and is there chemistry and sexual polarity?  

Ensuring all four centres are aligned keeps you aligned.  I believe you can apply this to anything in life.  To assess relationships with family, friends, co-workers, creative adventures, love, dreams, aspirations.  It keeps the centres in your body aligned and flowing freely and effortlessly.  Be gentle with yourself, this may trigger certain emotions, sit with those emotions and allow your body to feel that. If the emotions persist and become overwhelming seek professional guidance and help like a relationship coach, psychologist, naturopath, osteopath, Dr or whoever feels aligned to you. 

Increase your libido naturally

In life as men and women our libido ebs and flows and it is normal to have times when you are really turned on and others when you aren’t feeling into it.  There are natural ways to increase your libido and one of my favourites is a heart-warming cacao.  

Recipe

  • Organic Cacao 1 tbsp 
  • Maca powder ½ tbsp
  • Essential Oils – One drop of Frankie or Peppermint oil 1-2 drops 
  • Milk (Dairy free alternative like almond, rice milk, whatever tickles your fancy)

Optional

  • Coconut oil ½ teaspoon 
  • Sugar free alternative like coconut sugar, rice malt syrup, molasses, pure maple syrup.
  • Medicinal mushrooms read label
  • Coffee, espresso (Least refined as possible)

Place milk over stove in saucepan, combine ingredients, whisk and bring to boil, place in your favourite drinking cup and let the magic unfold.  

NATURAL WAYS TO SUPPORT THE TRANSITION THROUGH MENOPAUSE

 

Menopause is a natural part of any woman’s life. The symptoms associated with the hormonal changes that take place during this time can be uncomfortable and unpleasant. Fortunately, there are a variety of dietary, herbal, and lifestyle modifications that you can discuss with your doctor that can naturally support the body through this transition and help minimize symptoms.

The following is a list of natural remedies that have generally been found to be helpful for managing the symptoms of menopause. You’ll quickly notice patterns of certain recommendations that can have far-reaching effects across several symptoms! Just remember: These are not magic-bullet solutions. All individuals are unique, and results may vary.

Be sure to consult your healthcare provider before taking any herbs or supplements. It is very important that these be approved by a doctor, as many have contraindications with certain medications or medical conditions.

 

DRY SKIN

Dietary Recommendations:

Consume bone broth.

Minimise consumption of caffeine and alcohol.

Seeds (pumpkin, sesame, sunflower)

Wild-caught fatty fish (mackerel, tuna, salmon)

Walnuts

Herbs and Supplements:

Collagen peptides

Fish oil

Geranium essential oil

DōTERRA Life Long Vitality Supplements

Lifestyle Modifications:

Apply sunscreen with SPF 15 or higher when exposed to sun.

Avoid smoking.

Drink lots of water to stay well hydrated.

Moisturise with coconut oil, mineral oil, or petroleum jelly after bathing.

Use gentle soaps free of harsh chemicals and scents.

ESTROGEN BALANCE

Dietary Recommendations:

Cruciferous vegetables (broccoli, cauliflower, Brussels sprouts)

Non-GMO whole soy (tofu, tempeh, miso, edamame)

Herbs and Supplements:

Vitex (also known as chasteberry)

Life Long Vitality Supplements DōTERRA

Lifestyle Modifications:

Avoid plastics and toxic chemicals with known endocrine disruptors. 

Maintain a healthy weight.

HOT FLASHES AND NIGHT SWEATS

Dietary Recommendations:

Experiment with eliminating gluten.

Flax seeds

Maca

Minimise consumption of caffeine, alcohol, and spicy foods.

Non-GMO whole soy (tofu, tempeh, miso, edamame)

Pomegranate seeds and oil

Herbs and Supplements:

Clary sage oil

Lifestyle Modifications:

Acupuncture

Balanced breathing exercises

Dress in loose fitting, layered clothing

Engage in moderate exercise, regularly.

Practice restorative yoga.

JOINT PAIN

Dietary Recommendations:

Cherries

Cruciferous vegetables (broccoli, cauliflower, Brussels sprouts) • Experiment with eliminating gluten.

Healthy oils (avocado, olive, safflower, walnut)

Wild-caught fatty fish

Herbs and Supplements:

Cayenne

Citrus essential oil

Nettle

Turmeric root

Lifestyle Modifications:

Acupuncture

Low impact exercise

LOW LIBIDO

Dietary Recommendations:

Avocados

Avoid excess alcohol consumption.

Bananas

Brazil nuts

Dark chocolate

Figs

Vitamin C rich foods (broccoli, citrus, red peppers)

Herbs and Supplements:

Ashwagandha

Citrus essential oil

Maca

  Red ginseng tea

Sandalwood essential oil

Lifestyle Modifications:

Kegel exercises

Moderate exercise

Engage in sensual and sexual pleasure.

MOOD SWINGS

Dietary Recommendations:

Experiment with eliminating gluten. 

Flax seeds

Leafy greens

Organic eggs

Organic yogurt

Sardines

Walnuts

Wild-caught fatty fish

Fish oil

St. John’s Wort

LifeLong Vitality Supplements DoTERRA

Lifestyle Modifications:

Acupuncture

Meditation

Moderate exercise

POOR SLEEP

Dietary Recommendations:

Crowd out sugar.

Limit caffeine; avoid altogether in the afternoon and evening.

  Herbs and Supplements:

Lavender tea

DoTERRA Lavender Peace, Vetiver essential oil 

Lifestyle Modifications:

Ban electronics from the bedroom.

Create a bedtime routine.

Limit exposure to blue light from electronics in the evening.

Practice restorative yoga before bedtime.

PROTECTION AGAINST OSTEOPOROSIS

Dietary Recommendations:

Almonds

Cruciferous vegetables (broccoli, cauliflower, Brussels sprouts) • High quality protein (plant or animal)

Leafy greens

Oranges

Sweet potatoes

Herbs and Supplements:

Calcium supplements

Clary sage oil

Vitamin D

Lifestyle Modifications:

Avoid smoking.

Limit consumption of alcohol.

Regularly engage in low-impact exercise.

VAGINAL DRYNESS

Dietary Recommendations:

Pomegranate seeds

• Seeds (pumpkin, sesame, sunflower) • Walnuts

Wild-caught fatty fish

Herbs and Supplements:

Pomegranate oil

Tea tree oil

Lifestyle Modifications:

Avoid using soaps with harsh chemicals or scents in the vaginal region.

Drink lots of water to stay well hydrated.

Practice moderate cardio several times a week.

Use organic lubricant.

 

If you are not yet a DoTERRA wholesale customer of mine and would like to become one, please click here to join today. You will receive 25% off all orders and have me as your personal wellness advocate. 

I look forward to seeing you on the other side!]

Tiff

 

LEGAL DISCLAIMER

This information is provided for educational purposes only. It is not intended to cure or treat any medical conditions. This protocol is not a substitute for medical advice. Consult with a doctor or a medical professional before taking any herbs or supplements.

 

How I kicked anxiety to the curb..

The beginning of this year was particularly tricky for me, external challenges had my head in a spin. For the first time in my life I began to suffer with the dreaded anxiety – so much so that I thought it was beginning to be who I was… I only knew I had it, when I felt it dissolve for a moment.. to think ‘oh wow’ a feeling I had carried for so long was not there for a moment (usually when I practiced yoga it would disappear and I was get a sense of relief) So I came to be aware that I was suffering  with a functioning form of anxiety, constantly in a state of Fight or Flight where my body was on high alert. As it worsened I began to experience heart palpitations, shortness of breath, insomnia, my cycle became irregular,  felt ‘wired and tied’.. I became extra sensitive to caffeine (though I craved it for the energy) and my good old glass of organic red would cause my heart to beat out of my chest during the early hours of the morning, when I would lie there with all sorts of yucky feelings in my mind.

So I began my journey to heal. I knew I had to look at my external environment as well as internally.. to bring my body, mind and soul back into balance. I knew that it was possible to shift what was happening to me, that it wasn’t me.. nor is it any of us. Our bodies want to be healthy, they are in a constantly striving for health.. Our hearts beat to keep us alive, our body can control our temperature to within a few degrees without us even having to think about it. All pretty amazing, right? And symptoms such as anxiety is  a sign our body out of balance, it’s not ‘normal’, it’s not something we have to become accustomed to living with and accepting. We can drastically improve and even eliminate that shitty and sometimes debilitating stress and anxiety. Through diet and lifestyle habits.

So, this is what worked for me… and I’m not suggesting it will be your magic pill, as we are all bio-individuals and each of our circumstances are completely different, complex and unique to us. There are obviously many causes, most of which can be controlled to a certain extent by the choices we make on a daily basis. Maybe (Im hoping) this may inspire you to begin your journey, to navigate your way to a more stress-free, liberating, calm and happy life.

  1. Magnesium. The great relaxer. I Love a nice long soak in a the bath with some magnesium and essential oils such as lavender, cedar wood and DoTERRA Aromatouch
  2. Cacao Drinking elixir made with coconut oil and DoTERRA essential oils. I feel a shift almost instantly once I take a sip. I like to enjoy as a coffee substitute in the morning or as a bedtime ritual in the PM (No suppose cacao is has the highest amount of magnesium of all foods on the planet)
  3. DoTERRA Frankincense – I whiff, rub into my temples and drop under my tongue
  4. Meditation & Diaphragm Breathing. Mostly for 15 mins first thing in the morning, then whenever I could – waiting for the kids at the bus stop, washing the dishes mind fully, etc. Such a simple and effective tool to switch our body from “flight or fight’ to ‘rest & digest’
  5. Yoga Yoga Yoga.. 
  6. Becoming aware of my internal chatter. journaling is a great way to release negative thoughts, also just being mindful of how you speak to yourself internally and then becoming your own best friend, being more compassionate and kind, loving yourself!
  7. kinesiology. A great modality to release stored and trapped emotions within the body. Quite powerful! Tears were shed..  what a great release!

Now, obviously I havent gone into too much detail about all of the above. If you would like any info on any of these then please don’t hesitate to leave me a comment or contact me. And if your not yet a DoTERRA wholesale customer of mine, please click https://tiffanycowley.wordpress.com/essential-oils/ to join me. As you as you have enrolled I will be notified via email and will be your personal essential oil educator!

Namaste

Tiff